I think I have been asked “Where am I from?” a lot since I was a child. It was a question that always felt a little uncomfortable, even if the person expressed a genuine curiosity. If I deflected from the implied question and answered that I was from California, or Southern California, or Seal Beach as the questioning progressed, it would inevitably lead to “but where are you from from?”
This was before I had the tools to recognize that this question is a microaggression. It was always confusing if this was a racist question or genuine curiosity as I am of mixed race of Asian descent, thus hard to pinpoint from a geographic perspective. I wish that I had known that an appropriate response would have been to say, “My grandparents came from Japan in the early 1900s and my father came from China for his Ph.D. at UCLA.” Or even, “Do you realize that’s kind of a racist question?” Context is everything, but it’s also hard to judge on the fly when you are in a conversation with a stranger.
And that’s not to say that I’m not guilty of asking questions either. I asked my daughter’s friend in college where he learned to speak such perfect English because I knew he was from Thailand and I thought that maybe he went to an American School there (he did). She called me out that my question was racist and I simultaneously both chastened by my question and proud of my daughter’s willingness to intervene.
From my point of view, I had met a bunch of kids from The American School when I lived in Tokyo for a summer and it blew me away how these kids who had never left Japan spoke such perfect English, down to American slang! It always impresses me … not just fluent English but “English as if you grew up here.”
I wish that my public school system taught about racism as part of the curriculum. They teach about bullying, suicide prevention, and stranger danger. Perhaps racism was left off because it didn’t seem like an issue. But, of course, it’s clear these days that racism is the elephant in the room. Microaggressions might be a good place to start!
How about you? What books, videos, or materials would suggest for a unit on teaching kids about microaggressions? Thanks so much for sharing!
A Unit to Teach Kids About Microaggressions
Microaggression is a term used for brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative prejudicial slights and insults toward any group, particularly culturally marginalized groups. from Wikipedia
“In a 2007 article for American Psychologist, Sue and six other researchers identified three categories of racial microaggressions:
- A microassault is a “verbal or nonverbal attack meant to hurt the intended victim through name-calling, avoidant behavior, or purposeful discriminatory actions.” Example: Students wear Confederate flag clothing.
- A microinsult is an insensitive communication that demeans someone’s racial identity, signaling to people of color that “their contributions are unimportant.” Example: A teacher corrects the grammar only of Hispanic children.
- A microinvalidation involves negating or ignoring the “psychological thoughts, feelings, or experiential reality of a person of color.” Example: An Asian American student from the U.S. is asked where she was born, which conveys the message that she is not really an American.”
Let’s start with this humorous video that makes the point of how the question, “Where are you from?”, is a microaggression.
(The creator of the video notes that ff you’d like to use this video for your company, school or other organization please email KenTanakaLA (at) gmail (dot) com for licensing information.)
Examples of microaggressions in the classroom from Southern Illinois University:
Some examples of microaggression (DU CME):
- Setting low expectations for a student from particular groups, neighborhoods, or feeder patterns.
- Using inappropriate humor in class that degrades students from different groups.
- Singling students out in class because of their backgrounds.
- Complimenting non-white students on their use of ‘good English.’
Ways of responding to microaggressions when we witness others doing them:
- Recognize that it happened.
- Acknowledge that it happened (at the time or later) to the person affected.
- Be an active bystander: not just someone who thinks of themselves as an ally or knows what oppression looks like, but actually does something about it.
- Calling in vs. calling out. Calling someone out on their inappropriate behavior may help them recognize their mistake, but calling someone in is a more compassionate alternative. Calling someone in on their hurtful or oppressive behavior means to assume that the person did not intend to be hurtful or oppressive and did not fully understand the impact of their actions. Calling someone in is to communicate with that person, using an appropriate communication channel, to let them know what the specific hurtful or oppressive behavior was and explain why it was inappropriate. The goal of calling in is not to shame the person, but to compassionately educate that person and encourage behavior change (http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/01/guide-to-calling-in/).”
Examples of Ways to Respond to Microaggressions
(Creating a Positive Classroom Climate for Diversity)
Example 1: Inquire
When one student suggests that a statement made by a character in a book is offensive to Asian women, another student says ‘That’s not offensive. That’s reality.’
Response: ‘I understand that you disagree. Can you tell me what you mean?’
Example 2: Paraphrasing as a means of reflection
A white student says, ‘I don’t understand why we always have to talk about race. It’s not always about race.’
Response: ‘It sounds like you are concerned and frustrated about the focus of discussion. What is it that concerns you most?’
Example 3: Use an ‘I’ statement
A male student responds to a comment with a joke, ‘Does your mom know you’re gay?’
Response: ‘I didn’t find that joke funny. Please remember our class ground rules and be respectful of each other.’
Example 4: Redirect and Reframe
When asked a question about terrorism, a student suggests that another hijab-wearing student would be better able to answer the question.
Response: ‘She can decide if she would like to comment. I’m interested in the perspectives of all the students in this class so that we can think about this topic together. Over the years, many groups have engaged in terrorism. Can anyone give me some examples?’
Teach Microaggressions through Children’s Books
Where Are You From? by Yamile Saied Mendez, illustrated by Jaime Kim
This picture book comes both in an English and a Spanish version and has lyrical text to reply to the microaggression question of “Where are you from?” It is the perfect picture book to introduce a unit on microaggressions to kids of all ages. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
Lulu the One and Only by Lynnette Mawhinney, illustrated by Jennie Poh
Review from Randomly Reading:
“… Lulu tells her readers, there is always THAT question, the one she just hates, that hurtful, insensitive question people are always asking: “What are you?” …
Lulu’s story is upbeat and friendly, and she’s a happy character who is very proud of her heritage, but her dismay at being asked what she is instead of who she is is very apparent. Rather than just becoming withdrawn and angry about it, she turns to her older brother for advice, demonstrating the power of family for support, as well.
Farah Rocks Fifth Grade by Susan Muaddi Darraj, illustrated by Ruaida Mannaa
Farah and her younger brother endure straight-up bullying by the new girl, Dana, but I include this book because the type of bullying is subtle enough for the adults to ignore it. In the first instance, Dana makes fun of Farah’s name by comparing it to “pharaoh.” Dana also walks with a fake limp makes fun of Ana who has cerebral palsy. This book can be used as an example of comparing quiet bullying to microaggressions — where is the line between them? Allies also figure into this story and can be another point of discussion. How should an ally get involved? How can you be an ally during a conflict? [early middle grade, ages 8 and up]
New Kid by Jerry Craft
New Kid is the first graphic novel to be awarded the Newbery prize and it’s easy to see why! Embedded in a coming of age story of being the new kid at a New York City private prep school is the friction of racism in the form of microaggressions. There’s the obnoxious kid Andy who doesn’t seem to realize that Ramon is Nicaraguan, not Mexican. It’s not just the kids but the adults at Jordan’s school commit microaggressions. A white adult assumes that Mr. Gardner coaches a sport because he’s black. The librarian at the book fair picks “urban grit” books for Jordan and Drew. And my favorite, Mrs. Rawle, who is the worst kind: she thinks she’s “woke” but she’s actually racist. Jordan’s year at Riverdale Academy Day School also depicts kids of all different backgrounds struggling to fit in, and, in learning about each other, they triumph in the end by not just getting through the year, but by forging bonds that connect them to each other. Jerry Craft’s graphic novel points out our racist blind spots. It’s a book that is both empowering and uplifting, making us, the reader, better people for having read this book. [middle grade graphic novel, ages 8 and up]
Jerry Craft on experiencing microaggressions and including this material in New Kid:
Cilla Lee-Jenkins: Future Author Extraordinaire by Susan Tan
Cilla Lee-Jenkins is not excited about the new addition coming to her family. She refers to the new baby as “the Blob.” The new baby is also bringing out tensions on both sides of her family, with hints that it could be related to race. Cilla is bi-racial. Her father is Chinese American and her mother is white. When she’s with the white side of her family, she experiences microaggressions but doesn’t quite know what to make of them. When adults ask her questions such as “Where are you from?” and “What are you exactly?”, Cilla answers with an innocence that she’s a future author extraordinaire. Susan Tan treats microaggressions in an age-appropriate way to call it out quietly without having it damage her protagonist’s spirit.
Pair this book with picture book, Where Are You From? [middle grade, ages 8 and up]
Measuring Up by Lily LaMotte, illustrated by Ann Xu
Review by Ms. Yingling Reads:
“Cici and her family move from Taiwan to the US for better opportunities. Cici settles in fairly well, although she misses her A-má (grandmother) very much, and has to deal with microaggressions from people who make fun of her lunches or can’t understand that she is Taiwanese and not Chinese. She would love for her A-má to visit for her 70th birthday, but money is too tight. When Cici finds out about a children’s cooking competition with a grand prize of $1,000, she knows that she has to try to win. She is paired with Miranda, who’s father is a chef and has an Italian restaurant. Miranda is very pushy and sure she is right, so when the two have to choose dishes, Miranda ignores Cici’s recommendations, saying that they can’t make “take out food”. Cici manages to tweak the recipes with spices and ingredients that help the two advance to the next level, and Miranda becomes more open to suggestions. She is especially interested in Cici’s ability as a “supertaster” when it comes to spices. Cici’s mother knows about the competition and her desire to have A-má visit, but her father does not. As Cici and Miranda keep hanging on, they know that they might eventually have to compete against each other. Who will have the cooking skills necessary to meet the challenges to the judges’ satisfaction?” [middle grade, ages 8 and up]
p.s. Related posts:
White Fragility Books for Kids
Rethinking & Examining Dr. Seuss’ Racism
The Racist Side of Dr. Seuss You Didn’t Know About
Japanese Internment Books for Kids & My Family’s Story
SCBWI Minnesota Racist Illustration and Gaslighting Response
Racism and White Fragility at #ALAMW19
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i was shocked because when the dude asked all of those question just for him to be mad