Big Catch
On the beach, it’s like a festival/ but in the sea, they will hold funerals/ for the tens of thousands dead.
Japanese poet Misuzu Kaneko (1903-1930)
I’ve been thinking a lot about Buddhist rituals now that my mom is at the end of life. The Buddhist services that I have attended have mostly revolved around funerals and weddings.
My takeaway from my oblique relationship with Buddism is that it is all about “what goes around, comes around,” but in a very personal format: your actions in this life and in past lives lead to further reincarnation. As life is mostly about suffering, the way to true enlightenment is to break the cycle of reincarnation by living a very pure life (which is easier said than done.) This cycle of life and death is known as samara.
For those grieving, what is nice about Buddhist funeral ceremonies is that it is not a one time only deal. Those who have passed away are remembered in services in which their names are mentioned and there are additional group services at different increments during the first year after death.
Remembering the dead is a big part of Japanese culture. Obon is one such national holiday where everyone returns to their ancestral home for a week of festivities intended to welcome the dead home and help them go back to the beyond. I think there are a lot of similarities to Latin countries’ Day of the Dead celebration.
I was lucky to have been back in my family’s Japanese ancestral home in 1992 to participate in Obon. They live about an hour outside of Hiroshima. I had purchased a yukata in Tokyo where I had been working for Shimizu Engineering and Construction and wore that to dance in the Obon celebration.
The Obon Spirit Boat Procession is not part of the Obon festivities in Hiroshima, but I happened upon it while in Kauai a few weeks ago. They were a little early with their celebration which was lucky timing for me and my family.
Obon Spirit Boat Procession in Kauai
The Spirit Boat Procession (精霊流し Shōrō nagashi) is an event celebrated in various places in Nagasaki prefecture, Japan. It is part of the Bon Festival. During the event, the souls of the deceased are mourned and sent off.
The procession takes place on August 15 of every year. During the procession, people float boats which are said to be carrying the spirits of the deceased down the river. The spirits are said to be sent to Sukhavati. It is done as an act of mourning by those who have lost a family member in the past year, though people who are not mourning participate as well.
As with many other Japanese festivals, people carry firecrackers and gongs and often sound off with kakegoe. Some boats are built up to look like festival floats and many tourists come to see the event. Despite the atmosphere, the procession is actually a Buddhist event of mourning the deceased. At one time the boats were floated off into the ocean, but in recent years the boats are retrieved before they go out that far so as to prevent polluting the ocean.
Obon Children’s Books
Suki’s Kimono by Chieri Uegaki, illustrated by Stéphane Jorisch
Suki’s Kimono is actually about the Obon festival and her cotton “kimono” is known as a “yukata.” A kimono is a more expensive and fancy affair. So, actually, this book should technically be called Suki’s Yukata which looks similar to a kimono and also has a sash called an “obi.”
It is hot and sticky in Japan during the summer! A silk kimono (or the less expensive synthetic not authentic polyester) would be sweltering to wear. Kimono also have more layers. The yukata is a simple cotton robe that you wear by itself. It’s lightweight and airy. It’s perfect for summer and, in fact, the summer “kimono.” I use mine as a bathrobe! [picture book, ages 4 and up]
Soul Lanterns by Shaw Kuzki
Twelve-year-old Nozomi lives in Hiroshima many decades after it was attacked with a nuclear bomb. Every year, she participates in a paper lantern-floating ceremony to honor the deceased. Her mother always releases a white lantern with no name, and as she begins to dig into the lost stories of what happened on August 6, 1945, she finds that a project she is working on is helping to heal her community. This story speaks to the urgent need for peace in our world. [middle grade, ages 10 and up]
Dance, Dance Amy-Chan by Lucy Hawkinson
Cool Asian Kids turned me onto this out-of-print book, and I was thrilled to see that we both have been to the West Los Angeles Buddhist Temple which was down the street from where I lived in West Los Angeles. This temple still lists my grandparents in the services as part of remembering them. I have been here for New Year’s mochi pounding!
“Dance, Dance, Amy-Chan is an especially charming illustrated book about two Japanese American girls getting ready for their local Obon Festival. Amy Chan almost missed the dance because little sister Susie Chan disappeared in the crowd when she got scared of the drums. The drawings in the book are brush paintings in color and in black and white. The colors are very cheerful and friendly, and even the black and white drawings are cute, with a lot of details on the kimonos, hair, accessories, and toy dolls.” [picture book, ages 4 and up]
Japanese Celebrations: Cherry Blossoms, Lanterns, and Stars! by Betty Reynolds
You can learn more about Obon and other Japanese celebrations in this vibrant and informative book. [nonfiction, ages 7 and up]
Japanese Children’s Day and the Obon Festival by Dianne M. MacMillan
This nonfiction picture book covers two holidays that children can relate to. Black and white photos capture the events. [nonfiction picture book, ages 7 and up]
Obon is a small part of the storyline in Willa and the Whale, but I am happy that it’s included. Because Willa’s mother, a marine biologist, dies in Japan, her Japanese colleague sends Willa a Japanese lantern in case she wants to send it up for Obon, and also tells her that she will honor her mother in her own Obon celebration. [middle grade, ages 8 and up]
“Dear Willa,
This journal was found in a small drawer in your mother’s office. You should have it.
I have been thinking about you recently as we have been planning here for Obon. You went to a few Obon festivals here with your mother. Do you remember? It’s the holiday where we honor our ancestors. we dance for them, we feed them, we spend time thanking them? This one is extra special for me because I have been missing your mother a lot.
Your mother will be close to my heart the whole time.
I have included a lantern for you. We light the lantern so that our ancestors can find us. If you’d like, you can light the lantern and then express gratitude for your mother. And she can find you.
Know that I will be dancing my very best for her here in Japan.
I miss you very much. I hope you are healthy and happy in America.
Best wishes,
Chihiro”
This helps Willa heal, and in time, she is able to write this diary entry to her mother:
…” And Chihiro sent me one of your journals they found in your office. I’m reading it a little at a time. It helps me remember you and how much you love me. She also sent a paper lantern for Obon. She said that during the festival, she’ll be dancing to remember you, too. To be grateful for you. And so you can find me. I’m not really sure how that works, but I want you to know that someone is definitely thinking about you, during Obon and every day before and after. That someone loves you. That you will never be forgotten.
And sometimes when I feel sad, really sad, I remember that.”
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