Coaching Training for Parent Volunteers
PickyKidPix is lucky to have had great coaches for soccer — 5 years and running now. Living and competing in towns the mimic those in A Race to Nowhere, it’s easy to find parents who are out of control on the sidelines, screaming at their child or a teenage referee. It’s not a pretty sight. How do you create a supportive environment for your child? Our coach has very specific and concrete rules of engagement.
The bold and italicized points are mine! See, I told you that he is not a screamer!
a. Help child attend as many practices as possible
b. Communicate any absences/lateness in advance
c. Supportive and encouraging at all times
d. Zero tolerance at games regarding officials
e. No coaching on the sidelines!
f. Let me know if your child is having an issues on the team
a. Attend as many practices as possible
b. Be prepared for every practice – ball, water bottles, etc.
c. Work hard from start to finishd. Stay focused on the task at hand
e. Get to know all teammates
f. Be supportive/encouraging of teammates
a. Focus is individual and team development……not winning
b. Kids will play a variety of positions throughout the game
c. All players will play an equal amount of time
d. Players will be encouraged to take risks/chances….not just play it safe
a. Present and on-time for all practices/games
b. Communicate any changes in schedule in timely manner
c. Focus on development…..not results
d. Provide relentless encouragement
e. Always stay positive
Today was our first round of soccer games. 3 for us today. 3 for us tomorrow. A parent on our team inadvertently yelled out encouraging instructions to his daughter, and then caught himself. It’s so easy to get caught up in the drama of the game as our girls battled it out in a closely matched game. Win or lose, our coach assures us, is NOT what matters. It’s all about the rematch to mark progress. It doesn’t get easier to watch my child play but stay silent. But that’s the way my kid prefers me to be!
p.s. Here is more advice for parents on how to behave on the sidelines from our girls soccer town league:
Many parents have asked me about what they should and shouldn’t say from the sideline during games. Please NEVER say anything to a youth ref, even if you think the call was completely wrong. NGS maintains a ZERO TOLERANCE policy regarding parents (and coaches) talking to the referees. If there are on-field safety issues, you should discuss only with your daughter’s coach (who will discuss with the opposing coach). In general, it’s great to cheer, and to cheer loudly. Stay away from saying anything instructional, and avoid using verbs and player names as it can distract younger players.
p.s. Here are some coaching book suggestions if you are coaching your child’s soccer team.
The Baffled Parent’s Guide to Coaching Youth Soccer by Bobby Clark
101 Great Youth Soccer Drills: Skills and Drills for Better Fundamental Play by Robert L. Koger
My kids don’t notice that they are learning soccer skills when it’s made into some sort of game. Use Koger’s ideas for drilling the basics: Passing, Trapping, Heading, Shielding, Dribbling and juggling, Protecting the goal, Shooting, and Playing in their positions as the basis that you then build games around.
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