Books for Kids Grieving for Pet
It is never easy when a pet dies whether it’s expected or unexpected, particularly for children. My Mom Friend at Yoga asked for picture book recommendations when her son’s hamster died. She knew this would be hard on her son and my other Mom Friend recommended they read the Rainbow book out loud during the burial in the backyard.
Luckily the ground wasn’t frozen over because the weather was still quite cold. The Mom reported back that the burial went well and that reading the book helped make the ceremony special and personal. I think they referred to The Legend of the Rainbow Bridge but there actually two picture books on the same topic with very similar names.
Thank you to Twitter friends @serenity100 @nosycrow plus others who responded when I asked for help. I found many of these books as well on this list through BeatleBangs1964. This list is dedicated in the memory of Deacon, a joyful dog who was deeply loved.
Jekyll Says …: Good Deeds Cats Do That You Should, Too! by D.C. Blackbird
This self published picture book is a tribute to a dear pet cat. It made me think that perhaps letting children make a tribute to their pet, perhaps a poem, note, scrapbook, or homemade book, would be healing. It could be part of a ceremony or just doing a project might be healing. This book rhymes and gives life lessons from a cat’s point of view and perhaps your children may want to write about what their pet taught them.
Here’s a link from Imagination Soup on making a book from brown lunch bags.
Thank you to Jim Nelson from Pet Lovers LinkedIn group who provided more picture book suggestions here and here.
I’ll Always Love You by Hans Wilhelm [Ages 4-8]
This is a wonderful picture book about healing and bonding. It is the story of a young boy and his dog Elfie. When Elfie gets old and dies the boy sadly buries Elfie after openly sharing his grief. He vows that he will tell every pet he ever has that he will always love him. The book helps young children understand death and provides a valuable lesson that it is always good to tell a loved one, human or pet, that you will always love them.
A light, magical little picture book that honors the timeless connection between people and their canine companions. Written from the heart after the unexpected loss of her “forever dog” Martha, this charming picture book will bring comfort to anyone who has ever had to say goodbye to their best four-legged friend. For Every Dog An Angel is also a heart-felt way to welcome a new puppy or to celebrate a much-loved doggie friend.
Heal Your Grieving Heart for Kids by Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD [adult]
Offered are suggestions for healing activities that can help survivors learn to express their grief and mourn naturally and age-appropriate activities that teach younger people that their thoughts are not only normal but necessary. Acknowledging that death is a painful, ongoing part of life, they explain how people need to slow down, turn inward, embrace their feelings of loss, and seek and accept support when a loved one dies.
Based on an actual incident, this is both a poignant and funny story of a nine year old English Springer Spaniel who loses her front leg to cancer.
Annie and her high-spirited brother Max experience her illness and recovery in very different ways. Max is in denial and Annie is in a state of sad acceptance. It isn’t until they meet Samantha, a three-legged Golden Retriever, that they both begin to heal.
Top 10 Books for Kids to Cope with Death of Pet
10. The Legend of the Rainbow Bridge by William N. Britton
“A beautifully illustrated book of extraordinary caliber that offers solace to people who have lost pets. This is one of the best books on the subject.”
9. The Rainbow Bridge by Niki Behrikis Shanahan
This is a beautiful picture book that includes Scripture and a Biblical view of loving and losing a pet. Readers are treated to good advice on the grieving process and ways of honoring their pets’ memories with the joyful hope of being reunited with their beloved animals across the Rainbow Bridge.”
8.Jasper’s Day by Marjorie Blain Parker, illustrated by Janet Wilson
This is an advanced picture book about Jasper the dog’s last day with his family because he has cancer. It’s told from the point of view of the son, a young boy. He and his parents plan a wonderful last day for their dog. It’s a really sad but realistic and moving book. For anyone who has been in this position of having to put a beloved very sick pet down, this book would be helpful to let the kids understand that this was the best but most difficult decision an adult makes. [advanced picture book, ages 6-10]
7.Saying Goodbye to Lulu by Corinne Demas
“A very moving story about how a little girl copes with the loss of her beloved terrier mix, LuLu. Excellent for families.”
6. Goodbye Mog by Judith Kerr
“Kerr seemingly caps her best–selling series of picture books about an affable family pet with this simultaneously sad and soothing story.” — Publishers Weekly
5.Annie and The Old One by Miska Miles
This advanced picture book won a Newbery Honor Award, unusual because most Newbery winners are chapter books. While the story is not about the loss of a pet, it’s a wiser story of a Navajo granddaughter, Annie, and her grandmother, a Wise One who understands the circle of life and is so connected to the rhythms of life that she understands when she will move from the physical world to the spirit world. Annie, understandably, doesn’t want her grandmother to leave and she resists learning to weave because it’s connected to when her grandmother will die for her grandmother told her that when the rug she is working on is finished, she will return to Mother Earth. Annie has trouble focusing at school and starts to undo the day’s weaving at night. Finally, her wise grandmother helps her come to terms with the circle of life by simply being with her in the Mesa and telling her, “The sun comes up from the edge of the earth in the morning. It returns to the edge of the earth in the evening. Earth, for which good things come for the living creatures on it. Earth, to which all creatures finally go.” Finally, Annie is ready to learn to weave.
This still would work as a book to read after the loss of a pet for older children to help them comes to terms with their loss. [advanced picture book, ages 6-12]
4. I’ll Always Love You by Hans Wilhelm
This is a very sweet and simply told story appropriate for toddlers, preschools and Kindergarteners about a beloved dog that grows old and passes away in the middle of the night. [picture book, ages 2-6]
3. The Day Tiger Rose Said Goodbye by Jane Yolen, illustrated by Jim LaMarche
This sweet book is about a cat who has lived a long and full life and is now ready to pass on. She knows that she is ready to die and she spends the day saying goodbye to her friends, animal and human. And when it’s time, she curls into a little ball under the rose bushes and makes one last jump to the beyond. This is the only book on my list about cats who often leave when they are ready to pass on. [picture book, ages 6-9]
2. Dog Heaven by Cynthia Rylant
In this joyfully imagined place, God is a smiling, white-haired gentleman who watches the goings-on as dogs run and bark, play with kids, eat dog biscuits in cat shapes, and sleep on fluffy clouds. It’s also a place where dogs patiently wait for old friends: “They will be there at the door. Angel dogs.” Rylant’s kindergarten concept of the hereafter is cheerful but not humorous or glib. A book for parent-child sharing and discussion. From Booklist (Stephanie Zvirin) for ages 4 through 11.
1. The 10th Best Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst
I own this book and my Twitter friends mentioned this book the most often. It’s a special book about keeping all the good memories alive for Barney, a beloved dog. [picture book, ages 4-9]
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