Inside: It’s never easy when a pet dies, whether expected or not, particularly for children. Take a look at this list of children’s books on losing a pet.
It is never easy when a pet dies whether it’s expected or unexpected, particularly for children. My Mom Friend at Yoga asked for picture book recommendations when her son’s hamster died. She knew this would be hard on her son and my other Mom Friend recommended they read the Rainbow book out loud during the burial in the backyard.
Luckily the ground wasn’t frozen over because the weather was still quite cold. The Mom reported back that the burial went well and that reading the book helped make the ceremony special and personal. I think they referred to The Legend of the Rainbow Bridge but there actually two picture books on the same topic with very similar names.
The author of the Rainbow Bridge was recently discovered, a Scottish woman named Edna Clyne-Rekhy.
Here is the poem in its entirety:
The Rainbow Bridge
By Edna Clyne-Rekhy
“Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, your pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water, and sunshine, and friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who have been ill and old are restored to health and strength, those who were hurt are made better and strong again, like we remember them before they go to heaven. They are happy and content except for one small thing, they each miss someone very special to them who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance, his bright eyes are shineing (sic), his body shakes. Suddenly he begins to run from the herd, rushing over the grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cuddle in a happy hug never to be apart again. You and your pet are in tears. Your hands again cuddle his head and you look again into his trusting eyes, so long gone from life, but never absent from your heart, and then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together.”
Top 10 Books on Losing a Pet
Thank you to Twitter friends @serenity100 @nosycrow plus others who responded when I asked for help. I found many of these books on losing a pet as well on this list through BeatleBangs1964. This list is dedicated to the memory of Deacon, a joyful dog who was deeply loved.
10. The Legend of the Rainbow Bridge by William N. Britton
“A beautifully illustrated book of an extraordinary caliber that offers solace to people who have lost pets. This is one of the best books on the subject.” [picture book, ages 4 and up]
9. The Rainbow Bridge by Niki Behrikis Shanahan
This is a beautiful picture book that includes Scripture and a Biblical view of loving and losing a pet. Readers are treated to good advice on the grieving process and ways of honoring their pets’ memories with the joyful hope of being reunited with their beloved animals across the Rainbow Bridge.” [picture book, ages 4 and up]
8. Jasper’s Day by Marjorie Blain Parker, illustrated by Janet Wilson
This is an advanced picture book about Jasper the dog’s last day with his family because he has cancer. It’s told from the point of view of the son, a young boy. He and his parents plan a wonderful last day for their dog. It’s a really sad but realistic and moving book.
For anyone who has been in this position of having to put a beloved very sick pet down, this book would be helpful to let the kids understand that this was the best but most difficult decision an adult makes. [advanced picture book, ages 6 and up]
7. Saying Goodbye to Lulu by Corinne Demas
“A very moving story about how a little girl copes with the loss of her beloved terrier mix, LuLu. Excellent for families.” [picture book, ages 4 and up]
6. Goodbye Mog by Judith Kerr
“Kerr seemingly caps her best–selling series of picture books about an affable family pet with this simultaneously sad and soothing story.” — Publishers Weekly [picture book, ages 5 and up]
5. Annie and The Old One by Miska Miles
This advanced picture book won a Newbery Honor Award, unusual because most Newbery winners are chapter books.
While the story is not about the loss of a pet, it’s a wiser story of a Navajo granddaughter, Annie, and her grandmother, a Wise One who understands the circle of life and is so connected to the rhythms of life that she understands when she will move from the physical world to the spirit world.
Annie, understandably, doesn’t want her grandmother to leave and she resists learning to weave because it’s connected to when her grandmother will die for her grandmother told her that when the rug she is working on is finished, she will return to Mother Earth.
Annie has trouble focusing at school and starts to undo the day’s weaving at night. Finally, her wise grandmother helps her come to terms with the circle of life by simply being with her in the Mesa and telling her, “The sun comes up from the edge of the earth in the morning.
It returns to the edge of the earth in the evening. Earth, for which good things come for the living creatures on it. Earth, to which all creatures finally go.” Finally, Annie is ready to learn to weave.
This still would work as a book to read after the loss of a pet for older children to help them come to terms with their loss. [advanced picture book, ages 6 and up]
4. I’ll Always Love You by Hans Wilhelm
This is a wonderful picture book about healing and bonding. It is the story of a young boy and his dog Elfie. When Elfie gets old and dies the boy sadly buries Elfie after openly sharing his grief. He vows that he will tell every pet he ever has that he will always love him.
The book helps young children understand death and provides a valuable lesson that it is always good to tell a loved one, human or pet, that you will always love them. [picture book, ages 2 and up]
3. The Day Tiger Rose Said Goodbye by Jane Yolen, illustrated by Jim LaMarche
This sweet book is about a cat who has lived a long and full life and is now ready to pass on. She knows that she is ready to die and she spends the day saying goodbye to her friends, animal and human. And when it’s time, she curls into a little ball under the rose bushes and makes one last jump to the beyond.
This is the only book on my list about cats who often leave when they are ready to pass on. [picture book, ages 6 and up]
2. Dog Heaven by Cynthia Rylant
In this joyfully imagined place, God is a smiling, white-haired gentleman who watches the goings-on as dogs run and bark, play with kids, eat dog biscuits in cat shapes, and sleep on fluffy clouds. It’s also a place where dogs patiently wait for old friends: “They will be there at the door. Angel dogs.”
Rylant’s kindergarten concept of the hereafter is cheerful but not humorous or glib. A book for parent-child sharing and discussion. From Booklist (Stephanie Zvirin). [picture book, ages 4 and up]
1. The 10th Best Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst
I own this book and my Twitter friends mentioned this book the most often. It’s a special book about keeping all the good memories alive for Barney, a beloved dog. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
More Great Loss of Pet Books
Remembering by Xelena González, illustrated by Adriana M. Garcia
Review from A Kid’s Book A Day:
“I’m adding this beautiful book to my list about grief and loss. The simple text and realistic illustrations capture the bittersweet experience of grieving the loss of a pet and provide an excellent introduction to Día de Muertos.” [picture book, ages 4 and up]
The Longest Letsgoboy by Derick Wilder
Review from Caroline Starr Rose:
“A few months ago, my writing friend, Vaunda Nelson, mentioned this beautiful book to our writing group. When friends of mine lost their dog suddenly, I knew I wanted to give them a copy. This story is so tenderly written. It’s an absolute tearjerker in a healing way. Told from the perspective of an old dog nearing the end of his life, we see the world through his eyes (a “letsgoboy” is a walk). We experience his memories and his love for his child, whom he refers to as Little. It’s precious and joyous and profound.” [picture book, ages 3 and up]
Saying Goodbye to Barkley by Devon Sillett, illustrated by Nicky Johnston
Review by Children’s Books Heal:
“Devon Sillett’s Saying Goodbye to Barkley is a sensitive, uplifting, and heartwarming first book about death. Both children and adults will relate to the love and unbreakable bond between Barkley and his owner, Olivia. Sillett’s storytelling is compelling and her pacing keeps readers fully engaged.” [picture book, ages 4 and up]
The Rough Patch by Brian Lies
Evan and his dog do everything together including working on his magnificent garden so when his dog passes away, nothing is the same. Evan destroys his garden and lets the weeds take over. The sad and desolate garden feels appropriate.
One day, a pumpkin vine appears and Evan lets it stay. A pumpkin sprouts and Evan takes care of it, bringing it to the fair where it wins third place. Evan can choose between money or a puppy, and it seems that his rough patch is over.
This story of loss and grief lets kids know that it’s okay to feel sad and mad for a long time. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
Memoirs of a Tortoise by Devin Scillian, illustrated by Tim Bowers
Young readers will be able to relate to a young tortoise named Oliver who experiences loss when his human is gone forever. This picture book takes the theme of conventional picture books on losing a pet and flips it. The underlying message to make the most with loved ones and enjoy the memories that are created is a comforting thought. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
A Stone for Sasha by Aaron Becker
A little girl’s family vacation isn’t the same without the family dog but a special stone that she discovers (with a long history of its own) is a turning point for her grief. This book will help those processing losses. The conclusion can be helpful for open-ended discussion about loss, grief, and finding comfort. [picture book, ages 5 and up]
For Every Dog An Angel by Christine Davis
A light, magical little picture book that honors the timeless connection between people and their canine companions.
Written from the heart after the unexpected loss of her “forever dog” Martha, this charming picture book will bring comfort to anyone who has ever had to say goodbye to their best four-legged friend.
For Every Dog An Angel is also a heartfelt way to welcome a new puppy or to celebrate a much-loved doggie friend. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
Annie Loses Her Leg but Finds Her Way by Sandra J. Philipson
Based on an actual incident, this is both a poignant and funny story of a nine-year-old English Springer Spaniel who loses her front leg to cancer. Annie and her high-spirited brother Max experience her illness and recovery in very different ways. Max is in denial and Annie is in a state of sad acceptance.
It isn’t until they meet Samantha, a three-legged Golden Retriever, that they both begin to heal. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
Jekyll Says …: Good Deeds Cats Do That You Should, Too! by D.C. Blackbird
This self-published picture book is a tribute to a dear pet cat. It made me think that perhaps letting children make a tribute to their pet, perhaps a poem, note, scrapbook, or homemade book, would be healing. It could be part of a ceremony or just doing a project might be healing.
This book rhymes and gives life lessons from a cat’s point of view and perhaps your children may want to write about what their pet taught them. [picture book, ages 4 and up]
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Thank you for sharing this list of books. I have found books a wonderful way to start conversations with children.
To JoAnn,
Thank you so much fir coming by. I agree with you that books help with tough issues like loss of a pet and I hope this helps someone who loses a pet feel better.
I am, unfortunately, no stranger to losing pets. I lost my heart and soul, Kenya, much too young, although medicine helped me to have her an extra year and a half than I was originally told. As a family, we lost Oakley about a year and a half after losing our home to Katrina. My husband and I were devastated; our then 4-year-old was much more pragmatic largely because he couldn’t understand that we couldn’t visit Oakley in his new home. He has since mourned Oakley more than he even knew him.
Our Nikki will be 12 in February and I know that we have less time left to be with her than we have had with her thus far. And I know my emotional little guy (now 9) will take it hard. Although he fusses and yells when Nikki steals his sandwich (she’s old but still devilish), the two of them have a deep, abiding love, initiated when we brought Dylan home and Nikki was thrilled that we had gotten her a baby. She would stare at him intently, like she was trying to know his thoughts.
We already own The 10th Best Thing about Barney (although I’ve not been able to bring myself to reading it all the way through). You see, Dylan comes by his emotional nature very legitimately! Our dogs are way more than pets. They are mythical creatures that share our lives – and we’ve even created tremendous back stories for them!
Have a great day.
To Dee,
You win the book. I will email you to get your address.
What a wonderful book for a family with pets.
To Jana,
Thank you so much!
This is a great post. These books seem excellent for pet owners. I’m sorry for everyones loss. I had been looking for ways to cope with pet loss after our family dog recently passed. His name was Rascal, (Sheppard mix) and like most families he meant so much to my kids. While my husband and I were upset over the loss, we were obviously concerned about the children. I wanted to find a way to immortalize our great friend Rascal, respectfully. I found a great site which offers different ways to remember and cherish your beloved pet. I eventually decided to go with a Photo Blanket for the kids, with our favorite pictures of Rascal. It really brought out a positive memory for our children. I just thought this may be of use to some of your families as well: http://bit.ly/PetMemory
To Vern,
Thank you so much! The photo blanket sounds like a wonderful way to preserve the memory of a dear departed pet. Thank you for sharing!
Passed this along to a friend seeking help with her children/grief over pet loss. Thank you.
To Paula,
My heart goes out to your friend and her children for their loss! I do hope some of these books help!
Thank you for taking the time to mention JEKYLL SAYS … (Good Deeds Cats Do That You Can, Too!) We appreciate it. Another book that people may enjoy with coping with their loss is my book DREAMING OF KITTYLAND.
To D.C. Blackbird,
Thanks for mentioning your other books.
Thanks for this list! It really is a tough thing to communicate to a toddler or preschooler. We just added a Twigtale book on coping with the loss of our pet. Twigtale makes personalized photo books for children — really helps the child understand what\’s happening.
Hi Andrew,
I like the idea of a special photo album to communicate to a very young child. Did it help?
What a helpful list. My little A still reminisces about her budgie, her uncles dog and her aunties hamster…. I think books like these will help us to talk about how she feels. Thank you!
Thank you Tara,
It is amazing how a little can connect with a pet that is not theirs. My oldest bonded with a neighbor’s dog who was very, very old and not well. She was 4 then and she still talks about that dog and remembers it fondly. It will be devastating to her when our dog passes on but I do think these types of books help kids with loss of beloved pets.
It is so sad but I guess grieving for a pet does teach children coping skills.
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Hi Tara,
Heading over! It is a good life lesson for kids to cope with the loss of a beloved pet and these books help a little during this hard time.
This is why I never buy pets for my baby… The feeling of loss is certainly hurtful for the little ones, and may destroy their nervous system! No books are helpful in this situation!
Hi Link,
I think it’s a good life lesson for kids to experience, though a difficult one.
Saw this and thought it might help with pet Loss.. It’s hard to say Goodbye. But now you can keep the Memory Alive with a Mypetatpeace.com Portable Pet Urn Memorial Card just add your favorite photo of your loss Pet includes a poem of Memorable moments.
Thanks so much for your great suggestion TC!
Thank you for sharing this list is a great resource for those of us losing a pet to help our children deal with their feelings. Ordering one of these now, and pinning to share with others. http://www.hopepostkids.com
Thanks so much Katy! I’m sorry for your loss.
Thanks for the list of books! I am especially interested in I’ll Always Love you. I think the death of a pet is extremely hard on a child, but having a pet is so worth it!
Hi Sara,
It’s tough to lose a pet! I hope these books help.
Glad i came across this. I didn’t know there were this many books dedicated to children who have lost a pet.
I hope this list helps kids who have lost pets. That’s so difficult!
Hi there,
I wanted to share a Children’s Bereavement book I just self-published. It’s called, “You’re Still With Me,” and it was written 8 years ago when my dog Pepper passed away due to illness. Since then, I’ve had time to get input about how the illustrations should be done from a 4th grade class I had in 2016. Thus, the book is written (my inner child) and illustrated from a child’s perspective. I have read the book to 2nd-6th grade at a new school site I teach at now, and the students’ response toward the book has been highly favorable. I have also shared the book with adults and they have mentioned to me how much it has helped heal their broken heart. The book is available on Amazon in Kindle and Paperback. If you e-mail me at algeelisa@gmail.com, I’ll send you a free pdf. Take good care, Lisa 🙂
Hi Lisa,
Thanks for the heads up about your book. Sounds like a great addition to this list!
Thanks for sharing this information, Pets are part of our family. They are also our friend, support system, and confidant wrapped in one. They are by our side, eager to support us through thick & thin, and through good times and the bad times.
Regards
Kevin Ringstaff
I would add the book Tiddy Cat. It is a wonderful book about a boy and his cat, who is killed in a car accident, and how the boy copes with the loss