What Teachers Really Want to Say to Parents
My husband sent me this great article from CNN. It saddens me that teachers are bearing the brunt of negativity that bears resemblance to a Salem Witch Hunt because the U.S. education system is failing in the inner city. It’s not the teacher’s fault; the roots for the demise lay in No Child Left Behind but I digress.
While most parents have an idea of the basic teaching job requirements, there are so many other things besides the actual teaching that teachers must deal with on a daily basis. In the spirit of getting off on the right foot this school year, I have excerpted 10 things teachers wish every parent would understand. I pledge to do this and hope you will to!
“Today, new teachers remain in our profession an average of just 4.5 years, and many of them list ‘issues with parents’ as one of their reasons for throwing in the towel. Word is spreading, and the more negativity teachers receive from parents, the harder it becomes to recruit the best and the brightest out of colleges.” CNN
1) If we give you advice, don’t fight it. Take it, and digest it in the same way you would consider advice from a doctor or lawyer.
2) Trust us. At times when I tell parents that their child has been a behavior problem, I can almost see the hairs rise on their backs.
3) Please don’t ask whether a classmate can confirm what happened or whether another teacher might have been present.
4) It’s OK for your child to get in trouble sometimes. It builds character and teaches life lessons. As teachers, we are vexed by those parents who stand in the way of those lessons; we call them helicopter parents because they want to swoop in and save their child every time something goes wrong.
5) This one may be hard to accept, but you shouldn’t assume that because your child makes straight A’s that he/she is getting a good education. The truth is, a lot of times it’s the bad teachers who give the easiest grades, because they know by giving good grades everyone will leave them alone.
6) Deal with negative situations in a professional manner.
7) Never talk negatively about a teacher in front of your child. If he knows you don’t respect her, he won’t either, and that will lead to a whole host of new problems.
8) We need you to have our backs, and we need you to give us the respect we deserve.
9) Lift us up and make us feel appreciated, and we will work even harder to give your child the best education possible.
10) My mom just told me a child at a local school wrote on his face with a permanent marker. The teacher tried to get it off with a wash cloth, and it left a red mark on the side of his face. The parent called the media, and the teacher lost her job. If our teachers continue to feel threatened and scared, you will rob our schools of our best and handcuff our efforts to recruit tomorrow’s outstanding educators.
And here, again, is a funny video called What Teachers Make by teacher and stand up comedian Tyler Mali. This is my homage to teachers, the unsung heroes of our community!