Top 10: Best Children’s Books about Best Friend Issues (ages 2-16)

Best Books For Girls on Complicated Best Friendships

Why are best friendships between girls so complicated?  Can best friendships morph and survive as one grows up or do best friendships that have begun at a young age get stuck in a pattern of behavior that keeps the relationship in a dysfunctional time warp?  I wish that I knew the answer to that.  I have polled my mom friends and some have best friendships that have lasted a few decades.  Others, myself included, not so much.  One lovely mom friend who is incredible on every front (gorgeous!  funny!  nice!  intelligent!) said that she never had a best friend growing up, only a circle of very, very good friends (just like what men do!).  It blew my mind that this was a girl option!  But it makes so much sense to not have all your eggs in one basket.  Oh, if I knew then what I know now…

These children’s books have best friend issues that run the gamut from The Big Fight to adjusting to the ups and downs of life’s interruptions whether that is a tsunami or puberty.  Just like in real life.  I hope these books help to illustrate to your children who may be going through ups and downs with their friendships that healthy friendships have ebbs and flows.

10. Best, Best Friends by Margaret Chodos-Irvine

When your best friend in preschool gets a lot of attention because it’s her birthday, it’s hard not to be jealous and say something mean.  Luckily best friends understand about bad days and the friendship is easily repaired.  This book is perfect for preschool girls in the throes of  an ever-changing friendship dynamic with one close friend.  Girl drama; it starts really early!  [picture book, ages 2-5]

9.  11 Birthdays by Wendy Mass

Your best friend is a boy and you’ve always celebrated your birthdays together since you were born since you have the same birthday.  But this year, it’s different.  VERY different.  You are fighting with your best friend and it’s the first separate birthday party you’ve ever had.  And it’s not even fun.  But guess what?  It’s Ground Hog day (as in the movie), and you get to relive this day over and over again, until you get it right.  [chapter book, ages 9-12]

8.  Summer Sisters by Judy Blume

Sometimes best friendships change over time.  Caitlin’s world opens up with she meets Vix who comes from a family of privilege, and they become inseparable friends one summer on Martha’s Vineyard.  Six summers go by and the girls change, as teenage girls do, and their friendship inevitably does too.  [young adult, ages 12-16]

7. You’re Not My Best Friend Anymore by Charlotte Pomerantz

Molly lives upstairs with her father and mother in a two-family.  Ben lives downstairs with his father and his aunt.  She’s Caucasian.  He’s African-American.  Their birthdays are 10 days apart so they celebrate them together.  They are best friends until that bad day when fight over what kind of tent they should buy with all the allowance they’ve saved:  pup tent versus umbrella tent.  But it all works out in the end!  [picture book, ages 6-10]

6. Chester’s Way by Kevin Henkes

Two young boy mice who are best friends think that there is only way (a very precise way) to do things.  But when Lily moves in, she’s so different from them, they try to avoid her.  But when she saves them from bullies, they realize that there is more than one way to slice a sandwich and that Lily’s strange ways are rip-roaring fun.  [picture book, ages 4-9]

5. Introducing … Sasha Abramowitz by Sue Halpern

Sasha Abramowitz has a lot on her plate.  She has to see a therapist to deal with her brother who has Tourette’s Syndrome and lives in a boarding school.   Her best friend seems more interested in hanging out with a boy than with her.  Her babysitter is the brother she wished she had.  And then everything goes upside down when, Danny, her brother abruptly moves home to their dorm.  Oh yes, did I mention she’s on a college campus with her parents? [chapter book, ages 9-12]

4. Horace and Morris but Mostly Dolores by James Howe

Three best mouse friends are inseparable until that fateful day when they have to hang out based on their gender.  Dolores is having none of  it because it’s just too boring and she misses her best friends.  They are having a rough time without her as well.  The status quo is broken finally when Dolores takes a stand and she gets unexpected back up.  [picture book, ages 3-6]

3. Best Friends for Frances by Russell Hoban

Another best friend problem when you are a girl badger and your best friend Albert is a boy badger who doesn’t seem to include you when his male friends are around.  Not to worry, Frances has a plan to fix everything.  It’s a little sneaky, but, you know Frances, it’s a good plan.  [picture book, ages 4-7]

2. Violet Raines Almost Got Struck By Lightening by Danette Haworth

Violet’s world is upside down when her best friend seems to have acquired another friend who is slightly ahead on the puberty thing.  The thing is Violet is not sure she wants to grow up that fast.  Why is everything so different and confusing all of a sudden?  Why can’t things stay the same.  And her best friend, who is caught in the middle wants to know why can’t everyone get along?!  [chapter book, ages 9-12]

1. Owen and Mzee:  The True Story of a Remarkable Friendship by Craig Hatkoff

A baby orphaned  hippopotamus befriended by a giant, ancient tortoise?  This true friendship rocks the animal world because it’s so unlikely yet so real.  An amazing and uplifting story and you have to read.  [non-fiction, ages 5-12]

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By Mia Wenjen, PragmaticMom


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