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10 Things Teachers Really Want To Tell Parents

What Teachers Really Want to Say to Parents

My husband sent me this great article from CNN. It saddens me that teachers are bearing the brunt of negativity that bears resemblance to a Salem Witch Hunt because the U.S. education system is failing in the inner city. It’s not the teacher’s fault; the roots for the demise lay in No Child Left Behind but I digress.

In the spirit of getting off on the right foot this school year, I have excerpted 10 things teachers wish every parent would understand. I pledge to do this and hope you will to!

“Today, new teachers remain in our profession an average of just 4.5 years, and many of them list ‘issues with parents’ as one of their reasons for throwing in the towel. Word is spreading, and the more negativity teachers receive from parents, the harder it becomes to recruit the best and the brightest out of colleges.” CNN

1)  If we give you advice, don’t fight it. Take it, and digest it in the same way you would consider advice from a doctor or lawyer.

2) Trust us. At times when I tell parents that their child has been a behavior problem, I can almost see the hairs rise on their backs.

3) Please don’t ask whether a classmate can confirm what happened or whether another teacher might have been present.

4) It’s OK for your child to get in trouble sometimes. It builds character and teaches life lessons. As teachers, we are vexed by those parents who stand in the way of those lessons; we call them helicopter parents because they want to swoop in and save their child every time something goes wrong.

5) This one may be hard to accept, but you shouldn’t assume that because your child makes straight A’s that he/she is getting a good education. The truth is, a lot of times it’s the bad teachers who give the easiest grades, because they know by giving good grades everyone will leave them alone.

6) Deal with negative situations in a professional manner.

7)  Never talk negatively about a teacher in front of your child. If he knows you don’t respect her, he won’t either, and that will lead to a whole host of new problems.

8) We need you to have our backs, and we need you to give us the respect we deserve.

9)  Lift us up and make us feel appreciated, and we will work even harder to give your child the best education possible.

10) My mom just told me a child at a local school wrote on his face with a permanent marker. The teacher tried to get it off with a wash cloth, and it left a red mark on the side of his face. The parent called the media, and the teacher lost her job. If our teachers continue to feel threatened and scared, you will rob our schools of our best and handcuff our efforts to recruit tomorrow’s outstanding educators.

And here, again, is a funny video called What Teachers Make by teacher and stand up comedian Tyler Mali. This is my homage to teachers, the unsung heroes of our community!


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By Mia Wenjen, PragmaticMom

20 Comments

  1. Dee

    I’m with you on most of this, except for this:

    My mom just told me a child at a local school wrote on his face with a permanent marker. The teacher tried to get it off with a wash cloth, and it left a red mark on the side of his face. The parent called the media, and the teacher lost her job. If our teachers continue to feel threatened and scared, you will rob our schools of our best and handcuff our efforts to recruit tomorrow’s outstanding educators.

    Why would a child write on a child’s face??

    • To Dee,
      It sounded like the child wrote on his/her own face. I can believe this only because my kids have been doodling on themselves with pen for fun. Sometimes they pretend it’s a tattoo. Makes me crazy!

    • Felicia Stevenson

      To Dee,

      Why do kids do anything? Drawing on each other isn’t really that surprising (though mean, for sure)

      Loved the video. Very powerful and very true. I was lucky to have good teachers along the way, and have always told my kids that the day care lady and then teacher are in charge when I’m not there, and disrespecting them brings on the same consequences as disrespecting me. It’s worked well so far!

  2. I agree we must be respectful and appreciative – no matter what. However, we also must remember that our children’s education is our first priority, and being nice doesn’t mean we can’t respectfully advocate for our them. Not all teacher are good teachers – just like any profession, not all doctors are good, neither lawyers. I hate the example above of parents treating teachers unkindly and the lack of common sense on the part of school, that’s not ever okay. BUT, I don’t want to be labeled against teachers (especially because I am a teacher) because I want improvements or ask for change.
    I’m starting a series on advocacy — here’s the first post.
    http://imaginationsoup.net/2011/09/i-support-my-school%E2%80%A6-my-way/

    • To Melissa,
      Good point. I am excited for your new aeries on advocacy. Great topic. Can you also cover how to teach your kids to self advocate? Particularly so that the are prepared for college.

  3. i absolutely agree with you. we must appreciate teacher’s work

  4. Mark Molloy

    What a great post! Thanks for sharing!!!

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    thanks for this information. I am a mom and understand!

  6. Education Transcription

    Great tips for parents.
    childrens should realize that

    East or West
    Our teacher is the best
    She is our best guide
    She helps us to decide
    She tells us the right path
    When we are in trouble
    She is a book of wisdom
    Which gives us knowledge
    She is a burning candle
    Which gives us light
    All in all
    She is the best of all

  7. I think you are right. Thank you for writing this post.

  8. Yes, yes, yes. I will pin this to my board for parent resources. I would hope every parent gets a chance to read it before their child enters kindergarten!
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  9. The points that you have made here was too good. I agree with this. Definitely teachers should discuss these ideas with the parents.

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